People are so confused and lost these days about relationships. They
hurt one another, are harsh, critical and cynical of friends, partners
and mates. It really makes me sad and I've even had a difficult time at
times always being the best wife for my husband. Fortunately we realize
our faults and talk about the situations that we are not our best in.
I'm grateful that my husband and I communicate and work things out. Yes,
at times we both want to be stubborn and prove the other wrong,
sometimes just to be right, but then one or both of us realize that gets
is nowhere and we kiss and make-up so to speak.
I recently downloaded a menstrual cycle tracking app because I have been
so messed up in that department and there is of course a social
networking component to it. Women can post and chat about all number of
issues, situations, relationships, pregnancy, etc. I started looking at
some posts and realized very quickly that too many people are in awful
relationships. It made me sad and glad for my own situation at the same
time.
In no way is my relationship perfect, nor are my husband and I perfect
as individuals so I'm not gloating, but I'm grateful for what I have.
They key is that both if us share the desire to please Jehovah and in
turn that makes us want to work harder on our marriage because that
glorifies Him and the arrangement he established. I honestly don't know
how people survive without a shared set of beliefs and values. It
definitely helps keep us in check, especially when as my husband tells
me, I break into being a potty mouth.
It humbles and changes us both for the better when we realize we re being a bit out of hand.
The other reason this blog post was spurned on was after hearing friends
talk about their relationships or marriages. As women I think we tend
to focus on the negative things our husbands do instead of remember all
the sweet and positive ways they improve our lives.
We analyze reasons and are angered when they don't buy us cards, flowers
and gifts as if that validates the love they have for us. What we
forget is that they surprised us with dinner, cards, gifts at random
times. Sure, maybe it's not on an anniversary or special occasion but
why should we think that is any less special? People need to wake up and
realize that when we receive something unexpected that means that
person was thinking about us! Isn't that good enough? Isn't that
special? I think it is.
I'm not about to say we shouldn't have expectations but we need to stop
thinking that life is like a stinking fairy tale romance and if our
mates aren't up to par then we toss them out. I've been guilty of
idealizing marriage and life many times. That's just what I do. I'm
obsessed with Jane Austen and every BBC adaptation of her novels. I get
carried away and over analyze my life. You know what that leads to?
Frustration and discontent. It's not a good place. We can create our own
happiness! Stop comparing human relationships and lives to fiction. It
doesn't work if we won't stop.
Sure, my husband and I drive each other crazy at times and we argue and
are unkind on occasion. We disagree, dispute, misunderstand and
frustrate each other. But more than anything we love one another. Not
just in word, but in deed. I am so happy that I chose him and he chose
me. I'd rather be with him than any other person on this earth. He is
one of the best men in the world I am sure. He is sweet, caring, kind
and surprises me when I least expect it. He is a calming force in my
life and helps me keep an cool head when I'm about to lose my mind. Our
marriage is far from picture perfect(even though we re ridiculously good
looking) but we both put the work in. I pray we continue to grow
together and to work hard. I think I'll go home and tell my husband how
much I truly appreciate him today and to let him know that he is loved.
*Excuse the grammar/spelling as I typed this on a break at work! ;)*
